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| THE ART OF RELATIONSHIP |
It is an established fact that Persons with strong relationships live a Longer, Healthier & Happier Life.
There are different kinds of relationships that we live :
1. Parent - children Relationship (different stages)
2. Relationship with spouse
3. Relationship with Friends / relatives
4. Business relations
Each of these have specific attributes & requirements.
However,there are some simple Rules of Relationship that apply universally to ALL Relations. The rules are known to all of us yet we often overlook to implement them. These cost nothing and yet go a long way in cementing a relationship.Here is a refresher on simple #rulesofrelationship :
1. Say "Thank You" :
Saying "Thank You" is an expression of our appreciation & gratitude for some one who has done some thing nice for us without any self-interest & compulsion. It shows the person that we have noticed his / her efforts and motivates him / her to do more for us.
Caution : Do not overdo it.Lest the word loses its value. Further, there are different rules of saying" Thank You" to different categories of persons depending on closeness / intimacy.
2. Say "Sorry" :
In our day to day interactions, we often un intentionally hurt persons. We must realise and admit our mistakes. First to ourselves and then to the person whom we have hurt. By Saying "Sorry" (and actually meaning it) , we convey to the person that we value the relationship more than our ego.
Caution : Don't just "mouth" the word. Say it from "Heart". And make sure that the mistake is not repeated in future.
3. Pay Compliments :
We are so very generous in criticizing persons for their acts of omissions & commissions. But we are not so liberal when it comes to paying compliments. It costs nothing to pay an honest & sincere compliment, when ever some one deserves it. It goes a long way in cementing a relationship as it spreads Love & motivates persons to do more.
Caution : Compliment must be Honest & Genuine. No compliment is better than a forced artificial compliment. Artificiality shows.
4. Exchange Gifts :
A gift is the physical expression of our Love & affection for a person. A gift need not be necessarily be pricey A thoughtful gift is enough as a token of love. We should value a gift not by its price tag , but by the feelings it carries along with it.
Before drawing any conclusion or passing a judgment about a person, we must try to see the other person's perspective. We should place ourselves in his / her shoes and try to see , feel & think just as the other person does. It will help us in understanding his / her situation better. My be , it will change our opinion about him / her.In any case, we must respect other person's feelings & views even if we do not agree.
Holding a grudge against someone for a long time does no good. We must learn to let go of the hard feelings and hold on to the relationship.
7. Never take persons for granted :
Taking someone for granted is when we do not appreciate persons for what they are, have to offer or are doing
for us. It is when one’s actions or presence is not noticed in the
relationship. More often than not, we take those for granted who are closest to us. (Just like salt & water. Since these are readily & always available to us, we hardly notice their presence) .This should be avoided because we never know when persons start drifting away....slowly but surely.
8. Stop chasing those who do not choose you back and do not ignore those who really care about you
Sounds obvious ? But we often do this. We go on chasing those whom we love even if they do not love us back equally or reciprocate. Isn't is like irrigating barren land with precious water ? Long term relationships are based on Mutuality & Reciprocity.
The converse is also sometimes true.
We ignore those who really care about us.
We must remember that at the end , the person who keeps us happy is not necessarily the one whom we love, but the one who loves us.
9. Do your Duty :
Never ignore your duty in a relationship. We must continue to fulfil all our obligations in a relationship even if the Love & warmth is missing.
10. Never close channels of communications :
Never completely close channels of communication with any one. If things are not going well, maintain a calculated distance (may be less / may be more ) but never completely close channels of communication with any one. You never know, when equations change. In any case, a person can always be an Acquaintance, if not more.
Conclusion :
Conclusion :
TRY IT TO BELIEVE IT
पहले इस्तेमाल करें , फिर विश्वास करें
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